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If men’s kindnesses toward women were really only kindnesses, a man would be pleased if another man or woman offered these kindnesses to him. He would be pleased if another man or woman lit his cigarette or pulled out his chair for him. He would be pleased to derive his income, prestige, power and even his identity from his partner. He would take pride in another man’s or woman’s offer to walk him to his car at night. But in fact, “one of the very nasty things that can happen to a man is his being treated or seen as a woman, or womanlike.

(Frye 1983, p. 136).”

Dee L.R. Graham (1995), Loving to Survive

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Yeah! This reality hit me a few months ago when a teenage boy at work said to another teenage boy, “ladies first!” in order to insult him. Chivalry is not about respect or kindness.

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(Frye 1983, p. 136).” Dee L.R. Graham (1995), Loving to Survive

(Frye 1983, p. 136).”

Dee L.R. Graham (1995), Loving to Survive